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sistercarrionScenes ebb and flow.. people leave, people join, there are friendships made and broken, all personal, HUMAN functions.. 'tis the nature of the beast..
If things always stayed the same, a scene would die on it's butt. That's not to say, that people who decide to leave a night/group for any reason won't be missed by those who care, but that we appreciate that particular part of things turned out to be not what lights their fire in the right way for them. Doesn't mean I care about them any less.. had lots of friends decide to stop going to various nights and things over the years,and still we remained in touch, doesn't mean they're not the same person. People, please remember, variety is the spice of life. Open those horizons, and look out of the box now and again.. you never know.. you may find something interesting. A music taste, or indeed what a person wears, does not an individual make. For that matter, does not a "goth" or a "trendy", or whatever damn label, make.
I am myself, goddamnit, for better or worse.Throw whatever labels you like at me, some may stick :)Shit, I'm a walking bloody cliche when it comes down to it. Someone who has had sexual partners of either gender, someone who practices an "alternative" belief system, someone who listens to goth/darkwave/industrial music, and has a tendency towards the darker side of life, someone whose main body of clothing happens to be in that range known as "black", someone who (to complete the cliche) even has 3 cats.. but i'm the first to poke fun at myself. Fuck, it stops everyone else from getting there first!!
I've always held it true (and this is general, not anything particular), that it's vital to retain a sense of my own absurdity. It helps to keep my rampant ego in check for one, and means that i can't take myself seriously for long.THIS IS HEALTHY FOLKS!
We are all different, despite our human nature to bond into various tribes.. those tribes crossbreed, mutate and evolve, becoming wholey different creatures from where they began.. and that's all part of the rollercoaster ride, and the large part of the fun..
All this is general ramblings, thoughts about my own feelings about things that have been triggered by recent events. NOT specifics, NOT aimed at anyone.. just this sad old goth muttering to herself :) So please people, unless i let you know otherwise (and I wil let you know to your faces if i ever do have, (ahem *cough* FIL))that i have a problem with you, I love you all honestly and truthfully, like the old hippy i am..
Things aren't dying, just because a well-established, and (though he won't believe it) a well liked member of a group decides to go elsewhere for fun. Things aren't dying, just because a couple of people decide to be vindinctive to close friends, and try to be rivals, when everyone could have worked together to a better end. Things evolve, get fresh life, new blood *pardon the pun*, and new ideas. Who knows what the future holds? That's what keeps me here on this stinking planet. A desire to see what's round the corner. To celebrate what's got us where we are, and to look forward with those experiences in mind. Transitions and change, especially big ones, are always traumatic to a certain extent, and with any close-knit community it happens. We should expect it. We've been lucky with our track record thus far...
Ok.. so here's the disclaimer, in case my mutterings weren't clear..
If I have a problem with anyone, they WILL know.
Being goth just sorta happens.. it's not a determined lifestyle choice, and not mutually exculsive from every other part of an individuals life. You cannot, despite articles to the contrary, become goth by buying eyeliner, a few fishnets and a copy of "Nocturnal"!! Goth does not mean you have to (and I'm not saying that anyone i know does) look down your noses at anyone, or skit back at people. That makes that individual just as bad as those who critisise them for what they wear, or listen to.All it means is a certain type of music (which itself borrows from most other types through history,classical,punk,dance), and a tendancy to explore the darker side of life.. since when did that exclude items of clothing?
People evolve, change, disagree, love, hate and hopefully learn from their experiences.
If anyone feels preached to by this rant, i apologise, it wasn't intentional if it comes across that way. Just my ramblings, I'm certainly no preacher!
My viewpoint, my experience, my feelings on the matter... no one else's...
May i direct anyone who wishes to explore these thoughts (if they haven't already)further, to check out the Tao of Goth. Hidden somewhere on the humour pages of Netgoth.org.uk, if I recall. Much sense within those pages... and chuckles it must be said..
Ta dearies for reading...
Sod the cut tag..
carrion
If things always stayed the same, a scene would die on it's butt. That's not to say, that people who decide to leave a night/group for any reason won't be missed by those who care, but that we appreciate that particular part of things turned out to be not what lights their fire in the right way for them. Doesn't mean I care about them any less.. had lots of friends decide to stop going to various nights and things over the years,and still we remained in touch, doesn't mean they're not the same person. People, please remember, variety is the spice of life. Open those horizons, and look out of the box now and again.. you never know.. you may find something interesting. A music taste, or indeed what a person wears, does not an individual make. For that matter, does not a "goth" or a "trendy", or whatever damn label, make.
I am myself, goddamnit, for better or worse.Throw whatever labels you like at me, some may stick :)Shit, I'm a walking bloody cliche when it comes down to it. Someone who has had sexual partners of either gender, someone who practices an "alternative" belief system, someone who listens to goth/darkwave/industrial music, and has a tendency towards the darker side of life, someone whose main body of clothing happens to be in that range known as "black", someone who (to complete the cliche) even has 3 cats.. but i'm the first to poke fun at myself. Fuck, it stops everyone else from getting there first!!
I've always held it true (and this is general, not anything particular), that it's vital to retain a sense of my own absurdity. It helps to keep my rampant ego in check for one, and means that i can't take myself seriously for long.THIS IS HEALTHY FOLKS!
We are all different, despite our human nature to bond into various tribes.. those tribes crossbreed, mutate and evolve, becoming wholey different creatures from where they began.. and that's all part of the rollercoaster ride, and the large part of the fun..
All this is general ramblings, thoughts about my own feelings about things that have been triggered by recent events. NOT specifics, NOT aimed at anyone.. just this sad old goth muttering to herself :) So please people, unless i let you know otherwise (and I wil let you know to your faces if i ever do have, (ahem *cough* FIL))that i have a problem with you, I love you all honestly and truthfully, like the old hippy i am..
Things aren't dying, just because a well-established, and (though he won't believe it) a well liked member of a group decides to go elsewhere for fun. Things aren't dying, just because a couple of people decide to be vindinctive to close friends, and try to be rivals, when everyone could have worked together to a better end. Things evolve, get fresh life, new blood *pardon the pun*, and new ideas. Who knows what the future holds? That's what keeps me here on this stinking planet. A desire to see what's round the corner. To celebrate what's got us where we are, and to look forward with those experiences in mind. Transitions and change, especially big ones, are always traumatic to a certain extent, and with any close-knit community it happens. We should expect it. We've been lucky with our track record thus far...
Ok.. so here's the disclaimer, in case my mutterings weren't clear..
If I have a problem with anyone, they WILL know.
Being goth just sorta happens.. it's not a determined lifestyle choice, and not mutually exculsive from every other part of an individuals life. You cannot, despite articles to the contrary, become goth by buying eyeliner, a few fishnets and a copy of "Nocturnal"!! Goth does not mean you have to (and I'm not saying that anyone i know does) look down your noses at anyone, or skit back at people. That makes that individual just as bad as those who critisise them for what they wear, or listen to.All it means is a certain type of music (which itself borrows from most other types through history,classical,punk,dance), and a tendancy to explore the darker side of life.. since when did that exclude items of clothing?
People evolve, change, disagree, love, hate and hopefully learn from their experiences.
If anyone feels preached to by this rant, i apologise, it wasn't intentional if it comes across that way. Just my ramblings, I'm certainly no preacher!
My viewpoint, my experience, my feelings on the matter... no one else's...
May i direct anyone who wishes to explore these thoughts (if they haven't already)further, to check out the Tao of Goth. Hidden somewhere on the humour pages of Netgoth.org.uk, if I recall. Much sense within those pages... and chuckles it must be said..
Ta dearies for reading...
Sod the cut tag..
carrion
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If anyone feels preached to by this rant, i apologise
Date: 2003-06-15 09:31 am (UTC)RE:i can't take myself seriously for long.THIS IS HEALTHY FOLKS!
I went out & bought the worst looking Hawaian shirt I could find t'other day :)
wore it last night.(orange & brown :/!). One lad in the swan said his mam had a pair of curtains just like it, so I replied by telling him that mine had also earlier on ...:P
Also walking through the maelstrom that is the city centre at 01:00 hrs, a fella said (whilst with his friends) 'blame him, he's got an awful shirt on',
I just told him that it was the worst one I'd been able to find..& we all laughed...:D!
I hear what yer saying :)
Re: If anyone feels preached to by this rant, i apologise
Date: 2003-06-15 09:46 am (UTC)*grin* Your shirt sounds delightful from the description..
Should see my curtains tho'!! An orangey-yellowy mexican type mess.. landlords choice, I assure you, honest *tehe* Don't think they'd make much of a shirt, even if you were looking for the worst Hawaian shirt in history...
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Date: 2003-06-15 11:40 am (UTC)The scene aint dying. its always changed every so often. Sometimes people feel its not for them any more and move on (like I pretty much did from the metal scene) . This is sometimes down to their own decision and sometimes down to experiences theyve had with other people within that scene (I reached that 'had enough' point for a while after the way I was treated by one particular person not so long back, but you know all about that and I'm fine again now).
As far as people believing goths take themselves too seriously thats just ridiculous...I mean, come on now how could we take ourselves seriously when we look the way we do? :))
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Date: 2003-06-16 02:49 am (UTC)